R.E.S.P.E.C.T

No. I'm not doing the 30 Days Blog Challenge for a while.

I know we suppose to do it continuously, but, the hell... I'm not in the mood to talk something stupid right now hahaha.

So, RESPECT. What does respect means to you?

It's a big word for me.

I google-ed RESPECT and here's what I found :

"On a practical level respect includes taking someone's feelings, needs, thoughts, ideas, wishes and preferences into consideration. It means taking all of these seriously and giving them worth and value. In fact, giving someone respect seems similar to valuing them and their thoughts, feelings, etc. It also includes acknowledging them, listening to them, being truthful with them, and accepting their individuality and idiosyncrasies.

Respect can be shown through behavior and it can also be felt. We can act in ways which are considered respectful, yet we can also feel respect for someone and feel respected by someone. Because it is possible to act in ways that do not reflect how we really feel, the feeling of respect is more important than the behavior without the feeling. When the feeling is there, the behavior will naturally follow."

The link is HERE. Go and read more if you want.

You guys familiar with the name Immanuel Kant?

Here's what he said about respect :

“Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or the person of any other, never simply as a means but always at the same time as an end” (Grundlegung zur Metaphysik der Sitten (Groundwork of the Metaphysics of Morals) (1785/1996, 4:429)

Definisi 'respect' atau 'hormat' adalah berbeza untuk setiap manusia. I believe, your definition of respect datang dari background on how you were brought up.

Senang cakap :

Lebih diajar atau kurang (di)ajar.

Aku pun ada definition of respect yang aku sendiri pegang. Paling mudah rasanya.

Kau respect aku, aku respect kau.

Easy, no? There are several types of people yang aku sangat2 anti or tak suka. Salah satunya adalah orang yang memang tak reti nak hormat kat orang lain - How? Dalam banyak cara.

Tujuan aku membincangkan (ceh) topik ni bukan sebab aku nak bagitau dunia bahawa aku adalah orang yang sangat menghormati orang lain, no. Aku jugak, in my own way, sometimes (or most of the times) bersifat cilakak and buat orang bengkak hati.

Tujuan aku cuma nak meluahkan ketidakpuasan hati. Kiranya macam luahan hati terpendam la.

Here's what I really don't like. Senarai kebencian dan ke'antian' aku terhadap perangai beberapa insan yang tak reti nak memahami dan sensitif terhadap perasaan orang lain :

Aku paling tak suka, bila aku tengah bercakap, orang buat tak pedulik or tak pandang muka. Rasa macam aku bercakap dengan dinding atau dengan orang pekak. You know what, orang - orang macam ni betul - betul buat bengkak hati. But when you talk to me, or to others, YOU DEMAND atttention. Ko nak orang dengar and pandang muka kau. Kau nak orang RESPECT and listen to you, pay attention to you when you're talking. Kalau kau tau kau ada perasaan macam tu, kau ingat orang lain tak ada?

Can't you do the same for others? Bodoh...

What do I normally or usually do to people like this?

Well, easy. Ever heard of the Golden Rule?

I know my version of Golden Rule is very different from what all these religions talk about but sometimes, SOMETIMES, you have to improvise a bit.

So, what I'll do is, whenever that person is talking, I'll try not to look at him/her the way he/she did to me. Just wanna give that person a taste of their own medicine. I bet that doesn't taste good, right? Well, serve him/her right. Sapa suruh kurang ajar in the first place.

Memang kurang ajar la kan. Orang bercakap, ko tak pandang. Sapa ajar jadi kurang ajar sangat macam tu?

And kadang - kadang, what makes me really, really piss off is when I ask something, loud and clear, like, there's no one else there except the two of you, and that person didn't even say a word in reply. What the hell. Pernah kena tak? Ada rasa - rasa nak sepak terajang tak orang tu? Or you wish that person takde mulut or takde lidah langsung untuk bercakap? Ada kan? Kan? Kan? Mannn...this really piss me off.

Another thing is mood swings. Yeah, fucking mood swings.

If a girl ada mood swing during her time of the month, that, I can understand. But if bukan masa sebulan sekali tu and a guy ada mood swing, I really feel like killing people.

Like, one minute you're okay. Suddenly you're angry for no reason or reason we don't know. Or you wake up in a very angry state... Mimpi apa? Didn't get fucked in your dream is it? Fuck you mood swingers...!!!!

Aku pun kadang - kadang ada mood swing. Semakin teruk sekarang sebab orang - orang di sekitar kawasan berdekatan aku juga always have this. I'm tired of melayan orang - orang macam ni. Okay when they want to and not okay when they want to. Sesuka hati je.

There are lots of things yang membuatkan berlakunya mood swing. Problems, tension sebab problems (why do I fell it's the same thing as the previous one?) and etc.

Well, what ever it is, you HAVE NO RIGHT untuk melepaskan marah towards others. If you really really can't control your own fucking expression or feeling, then go somewhere ALONE and where there are no people yang ko kenal and layan la mood swing tu kat situ sorang - sorang.

Instead of bashing people and replying others with harsh words and tone and showing your stupid face yang bertukar every minute, why not go somewhere, settle down you feeling and then face the crowd again - dengan muka yang sedap mata memandang!

I did this most of the times. Because it's unfair to treat people, or to berdepan dengan orang-orang yang bukan punca masalah aku and show them my stupid depressed face. And, being a hot temper person I am, dalam keadaan macam ni, I can be harsh. So, that's one good reason for me untuk berjalan sorang-sorang or spend time sorang and get my feelings settle sebelum aku berdepan semula dengan orang-orang yang tidak menyumbang kepada depression aku.

Cuma, if I feel like ada orang treat me differently - melayan dengan muka babi-tak-tentu-pasal, I'll apply my Golden Rule. Yeah, Golden Rule rocks to the max. Sometimes, memang ada orang - orang macam ni. Ntah what his/her probelm is, kita tanya baik - baik, tetiba menjawab dengan cilakak, mau tak panas hati? Kita tak buat apa-apa tiba-tiba kena herdik macam tu. Memang orang tu kurang ajar la. And I'll give back what that person give back to me. Or sometimes, kalau aku rasa malas nak melayan perangai bodoh tu, I'll just leave that person alone. Mampos kau la nak melayan mood swing tu sorang-sorang. Buduh...

Next thing.

Being around kids in universities, I act like one too. Sebab aku tak nak ada gap, or tak nak ada perasaan yang lain-lain... How do I make this simpler? pendek kata, i don't want people to see me as an older me.

But that doesn't mean ko boleh layan aku macam ko layan adik kau dalam SEMUA SITUASI.

I didn't ask for orang-orang yang aku kenal untuk panggil aku kakak or sis sebab aku rasa there's no need to do that sebab aku percaya, I BELIEVE, respect itu ada dalam diri masing-masing. But malangnya, not everyone ada perasaan hormat tu tertanam dalam diri.

Kurang ajar sometimes. To the extend aku rasa macam,

"What am I? Their sis/bro? Or someone yang diorang rasa diorang tak boleh respect langsung?"

What incident membuatkan aku bercakap macam ni?

1. No sense of respect bila bercakap. Kalau bercakap, asyik nak menengking (bersangkutan dengan mood swing) or bercakap ikut suka hati nak guna harsh tone.
2. When I walk, you came up to me and you greet me dengan wanna punch me in my face. I don't mind with a slap on my back but if you dare to lift up your dirty hand dekat dengan muka aku, you'll gonna get it from me.
3. I have name, don't call me 'oi, oi,oi' or whatever fucking stupid names.
4. When I wanna say something and I say "excuse me", you give me your stupid "talk to the hand" fucking face.
5. Aku bertanya dengan baik and you reply dengan nada yang sangat kurang ajar, kasar.
6. Don't know your limit or space or level - certain times - bila bergaul dengan orang yang lebih tua.

And more. Kalau aku nak list kan, sampai esok tak habis.

I think, aku dah meletakkan darjat aku as someone older than most of my coursemate or friends in university lebih rendah dari yang sepatutnya dengan berperangai seperti sekarang. I dun set any barriers yang aku rasa boleh buat orang menjauhkan diri dari aku. I act foolish, most of the times - I admit that. And sometimes more foolish than most of you. Cos I dun wanna be orang yang agak - agak macam poyo etc...

But ada certain time, aku rasa, ada sesetengah orang betul-betul went overboard. I have my own ego also sebagai orang yang lebih dulu makan garam (walaupun cuma beberapa tahun wtf).

I don't mind gurauan etc. Cuma perangai yang kurang ajar aku tak boleh nak terima. Do you do that to your elders? If yes, well, no wonder you're a jackass.

Sometimes I wonder, if I acted my age when I first come in, will the situation be different now?

Agak-agak, kalau aku bawa perangai masa diploma dulu, takkan ada orang tahan kot. If you guys really want me to be my age then I will.

Aku rasa, to certain people in my school, aku dah start buat perangai macam ni kot. Sebab dah sampai tahap aku rasa macam, kurang ajar sangat. I don't want you to use unproper language atau expression the way you would use dengan orang yang sebaya dengan kau.

And lagi, we don't really know each other. Baru dua tahun lebih, it's not enough to give you the right untuk layan aku macam ko dah kenal aku 10 tahun, okay?

To those yang rasa-rasa dia ada dalam senarai di atas, please, have respect for others. I will try to respect you more if you can at least cut some of your nonsense.

Why suddenly this post?

Sebab someone, accidently buat aku naik angin tadi and I bet that person is waiting for me to post up something in facebook - like I usually do. Little did that person know aku akan call and menghambur sepuas mungkin. And this post is for you. Yes, you fuckhead.