Ada Apa Pada Nama?

Just came back from library.

Yeah. Rajin kan aku bertukar jadi 'double nerd' dalam masa exam week ni. Itu la jadahnya kalau dah study last minute. Selain dari study, aku pergi library juga sebab nak escape dari kepanasan yang melanda bilik aku. Macam sauna. Sape nak kurus, boleh la datang berbogel in my room.

Sejam RM 5. Tapi resultnya aku tak jamin.

Studying in the library, kalau tak ada orang yang bercakap-cakap memang heaven. Well, you know I know la.

Okay2. Entry ni bukan pasal library tapi pasal nama. Aku mention library sebab nak bagitau tadi masa tengah break for dinner, aku, Lia and Melanie ada borak-borak kosong. Dari isu serious sampai la isu lucah. Di tengah-tengah tu ada isu kelakar (lucu).

One of it is - Nama

Semuanya bermula dari this one article yang Lia baca. And then I told them about this.

I got this from my email zaman dulu-dulu. Walaupun dah lama, aku still boleh gelak whenever I read it. So, I just wanna re-share it again. Hopefully, boleh la menceriakan korang (especially yang tengah final sekarang).

Nama Melambangkan Makna

01. Yang pemarah - KEIJI CACIMAKI

02. Yang suka berjimat - SAYORI SUKAMURA

03. Yang bisu - KIETA TADASORA

04. Yang suka makan nasi - NANACHI KASIBANYA

05. Yang suka layan blues - APO NADIKATO

06. Yang suka belajar - ASHIKO ULANGKAJI

07. Yang kerap bikin kacau - WAKASI HURUHARA

08. Yang sangat kedekut - MATIMATI TAMOKASI

09. Yang suka sangat tidur - ICHIBAN TIDOMATI

10. Yang suka mengintai - HINTAI AKOSUKA

11. Yang tua - TARAGIGI PADANMUKA

12. Yang kena tinggal bini - SUSAHATI BINILARI

13. Yang suka merempit - SAJA CARIMATI

14. Yang Lembab - AYUMI SIPUTBABI

15. Yang suka BERSUMPAH - SAIIFOO BAUKARI

Masa 1st time baca, tak tau la aku jelaskan betapa sakitnya menahan perut ketawa. Owh, baca elok-elok untuk tangkap the maksud k. Ada orang yang tak dapat masa 1st time baca. Huh~ Korang ingat nama Jepun ni semua cool? Tolong la ~ hahahaha

Owh ~ Berkaitan dengan library.

Pada satu hari yang hening lepas, aku study sorang-sorang. Malam. And then aku nampak sorang mamat ni... perghhh ! Boleh bikin cair.

No ~ Tak hensem pun.

Cuma ada something yang menarik. Jeng ~ Jeng~ Jeng~

No ~ It's not his crotch. Not his butt (sorry Amau n Step). Not his dada (tak nampak tough pun). Basically, not his physical ~ Except for his hair yang panjang ke bahu and kalau dia ikat nampak sangat owh~ so cool.

Jadi, apa yang menarik?

This Guy-In-The-Green-Shirt (nama yang Melanie bagi pada dia) sebenarnya nampak sangat menarik sebab dia nampak (sangat) concentrate masa study.

The day aku nampak dia, he was sitting di meja tengah-tengah. All alone kat big table tu. Walaupun dalam library, tapi that day agak macam pasar ikan sebab... I don't know why, ada UNIVERSITY STUDENTS yang walaupun pada namanya adalah pelajar universiti tapi tak reti nak senyap dalam library... VERY ANNOYING !!!!

Oh~ Walaupun keadaan agak bising, tapi dia tetap... Sangat focus with his reading. Tak hirau keliling. Walaupun ramai orang lalu lalang kat tepi, kiri, kanan, belakang, depan meja tempat dia duduk... Dia tetap focus. And that frown yang sekali sekala muncul kat dahi dia masa dia membaca makes him looks more interesting.

And membuatkan aku rasa agak tercabar. Dengan kebisingan macam tu, dia boleh study and I can't. WTH.

Why Melanie gelar dia Guy-In-The-Green-Shirt?

I think 2 days after ternampak dia, me, Lia and Melanie study di library. Masa nak makan tengah hari, kitorang turun ikut tangga toilet. Masa turun tu, I saw him. Naik. That time I thought, macam dia. Bila dah lepas, aku pandang belakang, he was looking also, and yes, it was him. Naik terus ego wakakakaka... ~

Lepas makan, kitorang naik balik. And yes, he was there. Sitting at his usual place. Pergh. Muka tak boleh blah. Memang concentrate.

Today ~ aku tak ingat dah pasal dia sebab aku sangat-sangat risau dengan exam this Monday. But lepas makan tengah hari tadi, masa masuk library, suddenly Melanie tanya:

"Eh, is your Guy-In-The-Green-Shirt here today."

A'ah la ~ I totally forgot about him. Masa naik I quickly scanned the room. No sign of him.

Fuh~ It makes me wonder juga.

The way he study, concentration tu ~ actually remind me of Mr J. When he do something, dia akan focus like there's no one around. Dia akan ignore, totally, apa yang terjadi di sekeliling. I find that a bit annoying, interesting and... sexy.

Seriously.

Especially lelaki. You just imagine (contoh merujuk kepada Mr J), when dia buat something, kau berbogel la depan dia (percaya la, aku tak pernah buat), he won't look at you.

Banyak kali aku nampak dia tengah kusyuk dengan something, biasanya reading, kalau aku buat perangai tak senonoh pun (like farting, korek idong etc), dia seriously, macam tak terasa apa-apa. Kalau tak, kebiasaannya, habis aku kena keji.

So, this Guy-In-The-Green-Shirt, that time ada pompuan gelak-gelak, ada pak mak international student bercakap dengan suara kuat tak ingat dunia, ada couple bermanja-manja depan dia... Dia tetap focus pada apa yang dia baca.

Macam laki aku. And I found that sangat sexy and dalam masa yang sama, mencabar ego aku. Sebab, dengan Mr J, walaupun secara terang-terangan aku memang kurang pandai berbanding dia, aku tetap, ulang suara, TETAP tak nak mengaku kalah, mengalah atau rasa kekurangan daripada dia. Dalam apa jugak hal, termasuk berlagak selamba. Seriously. Dan juga dalam study.

So, masa tu, masa aku tengah feeling-feeling annoyed dengan manusia-manusia yang tak sedar diri mereka berada dalam library, aku ternampak dia yang tengah selamba meneruskan pembacaan, aku pun automatic-nya membuat selamba dan teruskan membaca. Tak nak kalah. Aku rasa, aku pun boleh focus dalam keadaan bising macam tu wakakakaka~

And guess what?

Thanks to him dan lagak dia yang sangat selamba, aku rasa suara-suara yang annoying itu semakin lama semakin senyap and aku boleh focus.

Tapi aku rasa, it's not him or the suara-suara annoying yang bermasalah. It was me and myself. Aku terlampau fikirkan sangat tentang suara-suara yang mengganggu pembacaan aku. When all I need is total focus untuk aku faham and mendalami apa yang aku baca ~ Aku pulak memanjakan otak aku untuk merewang and mendengar perbualan orang.

I guess, God put him there to remind me untuk focus.

Guy-In-The-Green-Shirt (or whatever your name is),

Who ever you are, thank you sebab duduk di tengah-tengah library and bagi contoh yang bagus (untuk aku). And thanks also sebab berlagak sexy (untuk aku wakakaka) dengan concentrate on your notes. And thanks also sebab tak hensem and that makes my Mr J masih kekal dalam ingatan.

Owh ~ Alang-alang cakap pasal Jepun, nah video lawak dari GamalJobat. Enjoy ya ~

And video Jozan hahahaha (Sorry ~ aku tengah tengok video. Sebab aku baik, jadi aku share hehehe)

Today Is...

Our anniversary.

Mr J with butt-like speech balloon.

The butt-like speech balloon is for some readers who's butt fetish.

You know who you are wakakaka

Yang ke berapa? Itu biar saya saja yang tahu. Anda-anda semua tidak perlu sibuk-sibuk nak tahu. Hahahaha...

I am so dead if he knew I posted this photo here. Can't find other photo yang dia cover muka selain dari yang ini.

Dear J (taik),

Thanks for remembering today. Thanks for accepting me for who I am. Thanks for always, I mean ALWAYS bersabar dengan perangei ku yang kedak sial most of the time. Thanks for always trying to satisfy my emotional needs even though ko selalu madah ko mok give up.

Thanks for believing in me when I don't. Thanks for all the surprises. Thanks for being a friend instead of a special one - You're making me comfortable by treating me this way. Thanks for allowing me to speak freely - Walaupun aku tauk, sometimes ko kurang senang sebab aku sangat2 kurang ajar.

I'm sorry for all the bad things I said to you. I'm sorry ku selalu nunggah ko 'taik' (aku tauk ko suka bah wakakaka). I'm sorry aku selalu paksa kau molah benda ko sik suka. I'm sorry aku selalu ngaco kau time ko busy (boring bah ko malar jak keja)... I'm sorry sebab selalu molah ko confuse especially time ku period. I'm sorry sebab selalu menyusahkan kau dengan problems ku and mintak ko tolong settlekan.

Thank you for letting me know how you feel. If you hadn't told me that time, we wouldn't make it to where we are today.

Whatever comes after this, aku rasa... kita redah jak la.

But today and for the days sebelum hari tok, I just want you to know (walau pun ko memang dah tauk)...

I love you

Day 12 : Your Current Relationship

I'm in relationship. I'm seeing someone. I'm taken - but not fully.

This is a guy, I never thought would be someone I'll be in relationship with. Most of you, orang-orang yang membaca blog ni, know our story. Walaupun tak fully, but, well, you know.

This is my Mr J. J for Japan and guess what, J for his first name also ^^

No, he's not Japanese (I wish !!! hahaha~)

We're totally different from each other. Macam langit dengan bumi. I'm a dreamer. He's a realist. We argue a lot. About lot of things. About, nearly everything.

We were friend. And now, we're a couple. We try to keep things simple. We don't call each other with romantic names. We're brutally honest (at least I am - what about you, J?) with each other.

Sometimes, I demand more attention. While him, being a guy yang sangat realist pula, sometimes 'buta' dengan my demand. Dengan perangai dia macam tu dan aku macam ni, and the fact that we're far from each other, selalu ada misunderstanding.

But, well... sabar jak la hahahha

I trust him. And I believe him.

Kalau dia berolah (bahasa Melayu Sarawak - buat hal) di sana pun, I don't care. He's there, I'm here. As long as he's being honest about it, I'm okay. He's a guy. Apa pun boleh jadik, kan?

We don't spend that much time together as a couple. Obviously, because we're far from each other. Most of the time, I'm comfortable dengan situasi macam ni. I have my own space and I can do whatever I want.

But sometimes, I do wish he's near. Especially when I have problems etc. He's a very, very, very good listener. Not through emails tho hahahha~ selalu ada misunderstanding.

Well, apa-apa pun, I love him

Auuuuwwww ~ geli aku mengungkapkan kata-kata ini di sini hahahaha

Collage. Of him and the places where we spend time together with.

I like beach. I don't think he really like beach.

There's one time, we went there. Aku kata nak tengok sunset. He said,"ok". So we went. Dia tengah bercerita, and aku tengah perhatikan matahari nak terbenam The view was very, very, very beautiful. Suddenly he said :

"Eh, dari tadi ku klakar dengan pipi ko jak tok. Bila gik ko mok nangga muka aku?"

(Translation : eh, dari td aku asyik bercakap dengan pipi ko je, bila lagi ko nak pandang muka aku?)

What the heck.

So, aku pun tengok matahari, tengok muka dia, tengok matahari, tengok muka dia - sambil dia bercerita.

When it was time to go back, time tu matahari tak fully terbenam pun (he wanted to send me back sebelum gelap), kitorang balik jalan kaki je. My house not that far pun. Macam dari CG ke FM House (Gelugor) je jaraknya... Kitorang berjalan naik bukit (the area berbukit-bukit - tak la tinggi sangat).....

Tiba-tiba dia stop. Betul-betul tempat yang paling tinggi. Dia pandang ke arah laut and said :

"Wahhh... kacaknyanya...!!!"

(Translation : Wahhh... cantiknya...!!!)

I looked at what he was looking at (or, what I thought he was looking at), matahari dah nak fully terbenam, masa tu langit merah-merah... Very nice indeed. And I said :

"Kan? Ya la ku mok nangga tadik. Nang kacak"

(Translation : Kan? Itu yang aku nak tengok tadi. Memang cantik)

He was smiling. Aku pun ikut la tersenyum. Suddenly...

"Sik pernah ku nangga mesin ya malam-malam. Kacak oo.. Cuba ko nangga bla bla bla"

(Translation : Tak pernah aku tengok mesin ni malam-malam. Cuba ko tengok bla bla bla"

Mesin???!!!

I looked again. And looked at him. He was actually looking at benda lain daripada apa yang aku tengah tengok. He was still smiling. Aku level-level mata aku dengan mata dia. And then I saw it.

Yeah, sure... There are people doing dredging works nearby. Tengah menambak pantai and buat breakwater. The "cantik" thing he was referring to was this :

Yang pada waktu malamnya memang cantik sebab ada lampu-lampu seperti ini :

And I thought he was talking about the sunset. Cis.

Terus hilang mood aku time tu.

Tapi tak lama. He's a funny guy. Walaupun kadang-kadang lawak dia macam agak sarcastic, tapi tetap lawak. So, mood aku pulih dengan cepat. We had dinner and he send me home.

Bila teringat balik, it was funny - for me la. It shows how different we are from each other. Di tempat yang sama, dalam masa yang sama, kitorang melihat benda yang berlainan and intepret it as cantik. Cantik mengikut pemahaman kitorang sendiri.

Walaupun perbezaan ini sedikit sebanyak buat masalah, but for me, setakat ni, perbezaan itu juga makes him interesting. There's a lot about him yang aku masih perlu kenal. Lebih-lebih lagi, dia bukan jenis yang suka share what's on his mind... Which, most of the time, buat aku naik gila hahahaha.

Okay, okay. That's all for today. Nanti cerita panjang-panjang, jadi merampau (Iban languange - mintak tolong rakan-rakan anda translate, ok)

7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat

Balik dari menyesatkan diri, aku menggodeh news di tenet. Membaca dan mengikuti apa yang patut. Lepas tu terjumpa pula dengan satu Dating Tips and Advice ni oleh Dr. Gilda Carle yang ada Ph.D di belakang namanya.

Dr. Gilda Carle

Kalau macam ni la rupa Doktor2 di Malaysia, aku rasa ramai orang lelaki rajin pergi kaunseling etc. Dah takda kemaluan yang nak diselindungkan, kan? Atau, senario kedua, Doktor2 begini akan menakutkan ramai orang dengan matanya yang terbeliak begitu dan bajunya yang terlondeh ya ampun.

Dalam short description di bawah artikel yang aku link - kan di atas, dinyatakan dia ni adalah :

"Relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle (www.DrGilda.com) has a private practice, and is a motivational speaker and associate professor of business, psychology, and communications at New York’s Mercy College"

Tapi, kenapa aku tak yakin dengan beliau? Hahahahaha...

Okay, back to our main topi, cukup2 la mengumpat Dr yang ada Ph.D di belakang namanya.

Ini adalah artikel Dr. Gilda yang aku nak share :

Most of us — even the not-so-jealous types — know that feeling of, “Is my sweetheart really working late… or could this person be two-timing me?”

I’ve counseled many individuals dealing with this concern, so let me share my knowledge with you about the signs that someone is cheating (or seriously contemplating it).

Use this information and insight — and either stop worrying or have a serious talk with your partner!

Sign #1: Your sweetie keeps you a secret from his/her family and friends

Cheaters keep you in the dark while they play in the light. Your relationship won’t work if you’re getting what I call The Shadow Treatment. The Shadow Treatment means that you are often kept waiting in the wings while your mate is out socializing.

Think about it:

Are there gatherings of friends, family reunions or workplace parties that you are not invited to?

Do you only meet some of your honey’s network of friends?

If you are kept on the sidelines, there’s probably a good reason. Maybe your sweetie is on the prowl for someone else. Or perhaps there is already someone else and so your role in his or her life can’t be made public. Anytime you are kept on the fringes once you believe you are an exclusive couple, be suspicious.

And know that the only way to end Shadow Treatment is to stop accepting it. Once you challenge it, you will either be fully accepted in your sweetheart’s life… or know it’s time to leave

Sign #2: Your sweetie is emotionally absent

Cheaters conceal their emotional whereabouts so they can be evasive about their physical whereabouts. Love is exhausting when you have to pry the truth out of a partner.

Consider this story: After enjoying a platonic friendship for a decade, Margaret and Roy began dating. Roy was a traveling sales manager. While he was on the road, Margaret heard from him only occasionally. But he continued to say he wanted to spend more time with her — which he never did. Margaret was obviously a low priority for him. She was shocked to learn he had another girlfriend across the country.

An emotionally absent partner may say what you want to hear, but will not change his or her actions — unless he or she wants to. Saying the right thing and doing the right thing are very different. If your honey talks a good game about spending more time with you and paying more attention to you but never delivers — look out! This person may be juggling multiple relationships.

Sign #3: Your sweetie says he or she wants a no-strings-attached romance

If someone says, “I don’t want a commitment,” take the sucker at his or her word. Don’t fall into that “I’ll be the one to change all that!” trap. Cheaters rebel against control and might even have an affair to spite a partner who wants to rein him or her in.

Too often, people ignore the clear message a potential date sends. If someone tells you, “I’m not into serious relationships,” “I won’t give up my freedom,” “I’m not ready to settle down,” or anything resembling that, take a giant step back!

He or she is clearly telling you, “I want to play the field.” If you pursue the person anyway, hoping for an exclusive relationship, you may find yourself two-timed and brokenhearted.

Never push a person into a situation he or she doesn’t want to be in. Never pursue a committed relationship with someone who tells you he or she doesn’t want one.

Sign # 4: Your sweetie admits to cheating on exes — and justifies the betrayals

Cheaters rationalize their behavior to let themselves off the hook. The way they justify their actions tells much about their character.

Listen to the excuses for past cheating your sweetie uses. Here are a couple I’ve heard from clients in my therapy practice over the years:

• “My ex was abusive, so I deserved to see someone kinder on the side.”
• “My father cheated on my mom, so cheating on my girlfriend is how I’m working through my past.”

Everyone has a tale to tell. But are these excuses — or any rationalizations — acceptable to you?

A person who admits to infidelities in the past and explains them away has a good chance of straying again. He or she has not taken responsibility for past actions, nor worked through the issues involved.

Sign #5: Your sweetie has never been without a mate

Cheaters won’t ride solo... ever! Leaving one romance and hopping into a new one — or having simultaneous affairs at once — doesn’t leave time for assessing whatever went wrong.

They don’t bother with introspection; their focus is squarely set on pulling new people into their orbit. If you are dating a person who shares a romantic history that always involves finding a new partner before breaking up with the current partner, take heed.

This person may think of his or her mate only as a void-filler. Filling a void is never going to be the basis for a lasting love.

Sign #6: Your sweetie tells lies about little things

Cheaters lie about everything, which leads you to question what is truth and what is fiction in their lives. When the need to embroider overshadows the desire to be honest, the relationship becomes a sham.

Craig’s friend set him up on a blind date with a divorcée, Alice, who was a top attorney in town with no children. Each time they were together, Alice described her interesting caseload. Craig was fascinated — and falling hard. He was so caught up in her charismatic personality that he chose not to focus on the fact that some of her stories contradicted themselves, and that Alice seemed to change certain details as she got further into sharing her stories. One day, the local newspaper featured someone who had been indicted for impersonating an attorney. Craig was shocked to find that it was Alice — and that she was a wife and mother as well! Alice had lied to both Craig and his matchmaking friend.

If you are dating someone who seems to be untruthful about mundane topics — where he or she had lunch, what he or she is doing on Sunday morning — take note. The lies probably run deep. As my Gilda-Gram warns, “Without truth, there is no love.”

Sign #7: Your sweetie brags about his or her ability to attract others

Cheaters are insecure and need to be given constant attention on the side. They flaunt their popularity in attempts to boost their own low self-esteem.

Let me give you an example: Marilyn met a “hot guy” on a singles cruise, and the pair became inseparable for the week. When they returned home, they spoke to each other constantly. He sent her a plane ticket to visit him. While together, Hot Guy boasted that he was his town’s “go-to” date for all the lonely women. Instead of Marilyn reading that as a sign to stay away, she interpreted his description of himself as “cute.”

Visiting her two weeks later, he said he was available throughout the week — except for a lunch date he had with a woman he had just met. Marilyn found that peculiar, but said nothing. After a dinner party, he detailed how many women had made passes at him. Marilyn began feeling disrespected and put down by this kind of talk. Finally, after crying herself to sleep, she told Hot Guy he was too hot for her.

If a partner boasts how in demand he or she is by the opposite sex, recognize how insecure your date really is — and steer clear. A person like this probably needs more ego-stroking than any one person can provide... and will look anywhere in order to find it.

So now you know the signs that indicate that maybe your “sweetie” isn’t really such a sweetie after all. Life and love are all about learning.

Remember this Gilda-Gram: “Everyone who touches you, teaches you.” Instead of getting bummed out about a cheater who stole your heart, think of what you learned, and how your experience helped you to grow. Your new insight will arm you to attract someone more trustworthy in the future.

So, what do you think? ^^